A VISIT TO A PASTOR’S HOME
BY OLIVER F. FAUSS
Many people seem to possess the idea that the life of a pastor and his family is different from the ordinary home. Some even act as though their view of the situation is that of the supernatural.
Of all the homes and families in the whole community, the pastor’s is often the most censured and criticized. What some people seem to expect of that household would be a burden, extremely grievous, to be home. The pastor, his good wife, and his son and daughter, are continually the subject of many discussions. At high school, a minister’s child, most generally, seems to be a target for jeers of those in the classroom. Many are they who have attempted to “outline” just what a pastor and his family should measure up to, yet if that same measurement was turned on those who offer it so freely, immediately we would have to “Call the Elders’ and anoint them with oil.
It has been said, “Why, the pastor has nothing to worry about. He shouldn’t be discouraged or feel blue as do other folks. All he has to do is go to church and enjoy life. Another may stand at a distance and look on, making this remark: “If I were only a pastor,” or “If my husband were only a minister, I could sing all day long.” Still another may reply, “Well, he doesn’t have to work. All he has to do is just let others bring him his living; he should always have a good sermon. He doesn’t have discouragements like other people, and therefore he should meet everybody with a smile.” These are a few of the many remarks that make up a pastor’s lot, week by week, month by month, and year by year.
The Pastor – A Help in Trouble
Most everybody goes to the pastor when he or she gets in trouble. He must have a good word of comfort and cheer to offer under all circumstances. People will unfold to the pastor their troubles as they will to no other. His mind must be broad enough and his heart big enough to weigh the matters well and give the right advice.
He meets with all kinds of problems, many that would tax a dozen minds beyond the limit. People with their domestic affairs come to the pastor and his wife for a word of consolation. There is a husband who feels he is right in his rigid stand, and there, too, is the wife equally claiming her right in the affair. They have come to the pastor for him to help unravel the tangle. Many people will confess to the pastor that which they would not discuss with an attorney.
Here comes a mother whose children are trampling her heart into the earth, and she seeks some ray of hope from the pastor. There is a wife whose husband forbids her to attend “that church.” Still the pastor must always smile and be of good courage. Many seek his advice in their financial worries, young people seek his council in love affairs. He is indeed the bureau of information, comfort and consolation.
Many times I have thought of all this, as a pastor of many years, and have been made to wonder, “Who on earth feels it is his duty to encourage the pastor in his difficulties?’ Some will say, “Oh, does the pastor ever meet with discouragements?” Is it possible that he and his wife must be left to bear their burdens alone? They, too, enjoy someone’s word of cheer occasionally, no doubt.
Unpleasant and Undue Criticism
The pastor is severely criticized when he fails to visit a sick member of his congregation, and generally it is among those who are irregular in their attendance. They seem to think that by inward instinct or by some superdivine knowledge the pastor ought to know that they are sick. They never seem to think of the Scripture which says, “Call for the elders of the church.’ The telephone is too far away for them to phone him, or too many miles to send him word. He does not know about this sick person, yet he ought to be there. Then generally the very first time they meet the pastor, the remark they hand to the poor preacher has indeed, a sting.
Why should a pastor and his family be deprived of that feeling of liberty when they spend a dollar? Is it just and right for the pastor’s wife to feel those censuring eyes as they look her up and down? Should the dress of the pastor’s wife or daughters last any longer than any other woman’s apparel? My opinion is that of all people who should look well in dress, it is the pastor and his family (if such is ever possible).
The Pastor’s Service and Family Appreciated
The pastor’s family generally is uninvited to many homes of his people, yet they feel he should not fail to visit them freely. An invitation many times would make a pastor and his whole family feel like they are appreciated. Any little act of kindness shown toward those who are over the work of God as leaders of the flock, many times drives away dark clouds that the devil has gathered around the pastor’s home. How easy it would be for any church to occasionally show their pastor and his family that their efforts are indeed appreciated. The church will be more than repaid. Any preacher can preach with greater unction when he feels that his people love and appreciate his efforts.
The Apostle Paul asked the Corinthians, ‘If we have sown unto you spiritual things, is it a great thing if we reap of your carnal
things?” (I Corinthians 9:11). He then answered the question by explaining how they that ministered in the temple at the altar were partakers of the altar, referring to the order of worship of the old covenant which was ordained by God through Moses. Then he makes this statement: “Even so hath the Lord ordained that they which preach the gospel should live of the gospel’ (I Corinthians 9:14). Bud Robinson said: “Ministers receive less for their services to mankind than any other men of profession in the world.”Yet they serve in matters pertaining to the eternal welfare of the souls. Why should a person think and ponder over a five dollar bill for days afterwards, when he gave it to some minister or perhaps his own pastor?
Many are the slurs and jeers that befall the lot of a preacher, yet he should never feel blue. He is expected to be satisfied with whatever is given him, no matter how hard he has labored. If someone mentions raising his salary or a special offering, I can almost hear a good (for nothing) brother saying, “Well, he shouldn’t be in need very bad, for I gave him five dollars one time’ (about three months ago, perhaps).
The Pastor, Worthy of Honor
It will be well for every church to remember what Paul has said in I Timothy 5:17: “Let the elders (pastors) that rule well be counted worthy of double honour, especially they who labour in the word and doctrine.’ It does not always give the pastor the “big headier some member of his flock to give him a compliment occasionally; I think he is deserving of such.
People will pay dearly for the services of a lawyer and never think of it, even if he loses the case. How should they regard the services of their pastor? He is called of God to watch for the souls of his flock, ‘as they that must give an account’ (Hebrews 13:17). He stands as a watchman on the wall and has the case of many soul’s eternal salvation on his heart. He stands as he who speaks the greatest message to all the world, the message of the gospel. He is the one who brings the good news to those in the paths of sin. “How shall they hear without a preacher?” (Romans 10:14). Is his service worthy of due consideration? Should he be criticized, or his family, when they try to appear their best?
Some even glory in the slander of the minister. Some will never mention a good deed of a pastor, but seem delighted to speak of his mistakes and failures. An accusation once turned loose on a minister goes with such rapidity that it is often impossible to stop. It appears that the evil mind feasts upon the tainted reports of another and more especially that of a preacher. The Apostle Paul must have known a few things when he wrote, “Against an elder (pastor) receive not an accusation, but before two or three witnesses’ (I Timothy 5:19).
It is not yet possible for a pastor and his family to live and serve in this world and at the same time board and room in heaven. Does the pastor’s home receive due consideration? Have you considered him and his family as human beings the same as yourself? Have you failed to go a step or two out of the way to show an act of appreciation? Dear sister, have you ever thought that a little love token handed by you to the minister’s wife would cause a world of cheer in that poor laboring soul? Have you been guilty of offering criticism when the pastor’s wife appeared in a new dress?
Let me add, a discouraged pastor and family is indeed a subject of pity and sympathy. If anything in the world, to my mind, would make the angels bow their heads and weep, it would be to look down and see a poor preacher, a victim of some scandal-hungry, vile lips, with all he possesses in this world – his reputation and influence – at stake, and him discouraged.
Of all the great men and women in the world, at the top are those who have hazarded their lives for this gospel of the New Testament. It is the most unpopular profession that a man can choose, yet for the sake of souls for whom Jesus died, your pastor and his family have answered that call to the ministry by saying, ‘here am I, send me!’
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