Does It Have Your Name on It

Does It Have Your Name on It
Margot Starbuck

You don’t have to be overcommitted.

At this very moment, my children are at Vacation Bible School. And I am not. If that sounds too good to be true, keep reading.

After years of saying yes to leading and crafting and even performing an uninspired rendition of a “Space Cowgirl” suffering a painful pelvic situation after break dancing wearing a huge metal cowboy buckle I finally gathered the courage to say the naughty “N” word, to serving at VBS, which is so rare among women in churches today. I said-no.

Clearly, per the pelvic injury, I learned this lesson the hard way.

Surprisingly, what finally gave me the courage to say no was someone who believed in the power of a good yes.

Melinda, a wise woman in my church, regularly welcomes others to join whatever God is up to by asking them to serve. She begins every gracious invitation to lead at VBS, to provide a meal, to rake a lawn, to host a shower, or to offer a ride with some form of “I’m just wondering if this has your name on it . . .”

Can you hear the freedom in those words?

* Implicit is the acknowledgement that whatever the legitimate need, the person she’s asking may or may not be called to meet it.

* Inherent in the “ask” itself is the freedom to respond with a yes or with a no.

* Understood is a confident certainty that God will provide someone to meet the need.

Basically, Melinda’s gracious style of invitation to serve others is no less than kingdom genius.

And it’s so much more than a clever marketing strategy. Melinda truly believes that declining to serve where we’re not called opens up a blessed opportunity for someone who is called and equipped.

Her wisdom resonates with the wisdom of Paul, who suggested that the body functions as it should precisely when those of us who are ears aren’t trying to see, and those of us who are eyes aren’t attempting to hear! In Peter’s letter to scattered believers, he similarly exhorts, “God has given each of you a gift from his great variety of spiritual gifts. Use them well to serve one another” (1 Peter 4:10). We serve God most faithfully when we use what we have been given.

In Introverts in the Church: Finding Our Place in an Extroverted Culture, pastor and author Adam McHugh recognizes that while many of the ministry opportunities are well-suited for extroverts, a lot of the roles esteemed in the church aren’t good fits for introverts. McHugh encourages introverts to release the burden of squeezing into a mold that doesn’t fit and, instead, seize those opportunities that complement their natural giftings.

When we’re finally freed to serve as we’re called and gifted, we’re also set free to say no!

* If, like me, you have a physiological sensitivity to loud sounds, it’s possible you’re not called to organize field games at VBS.

* (Though you might be able to cut out colorful shapes, at home, from construction paper)

* If you’re critically ill, it might not be the moment to build a Habitat for Humanity house.

* (Though you can offer prayers for families in need of permanent shelter)

* If you are a woman, or teen, it’s probable you’re not called to pick up hitchhikers or stop to fix a motorist’s flat tire.

* (Though you can place a phone call for emergency assistance)

* If you are shepherding small children, this might not be your season to travel on a mission trip to Eastern Europe.

(Though you may be able to support another long-term or short-term missionary financially)

The biggest win about choking out a sometimes-difficult-no is that it frees us up to say yes to the possibilities that do have our names on them. As we do, our nos become more God-honoring than all the people-pleasing yeses spoken out of a need to please and not disappoint.

Every moment that I’ve not been at VBS this morning, I’ve been able to do those things that do have my name on them: I’ve encouraged. I’ve prayed. I’ve written. I even walked and chatted with a friend.

You can see how this thing is a win, right?

For the love of God, just say no.

From: web site. April 2015.
The above article, “Does It Have Your Name on It” was written by Maggie Margot Starbuck. The article was excerpted from

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This article may not be written by an Apostolic author, but it contains many excellent principles and concepts that can be adapted to most churches. As the old saying goes, “Eat the meat. Throw away the bones.”