Thu. Feb 25th, 2021

Places to Meet New People at Church
Christine Yount Jones

Thanks to the Spirit of God drawing people week in and week out to your church, you have opportunities waiting to meet all kinds of new people.

* At all church events, stand near the food. You’ll easily meet and greet all sorts of hungry new people.
* Serve coffee and doughnuts. Everyone shows up there eventually!
* Attend an adult Christian education class where you’ll get to know others (and you’ll grow, too).
* Join a sports league—even if you don’t have the skirts, you’ll have fun.
* Volunteer at the welcome table instead of hanging out at the children’s ministry info table.
* Join the choir or praise team—you’ll get to know God a little better, too, as you worship him!
* Get involved in a small group—for instant friends and fellowship.
* It’s an oldie, but goldie: Follow up with people from your church’s visitor cards—a phone call trumps an email, and a personal visit trumps a phone call. Forget the form letter; that trumps nothing.
* Wander around. A lot. (Try not to look lost, though!)
* Serve your church as a greeter. Give them a firm handshake.
* Attend your church’s membership class—always.
* When attending service, sit in a different spot each week. People tend to sit in the same vicinity each week—invade some new space.
* Go to church dinners…and sit with people you don’t know.

6 Ways to Help People Feel Accepted

There’s a man in our church named Roger who’s made our family feel accepted from day one. Follow Roger’s lead, and you’ll make people want to come back.

* Use people’s name. Commit names to memory,
* Touch them… shake a hand, pat a back.
* Smile. You’re happy to see them, aren’t you?
* Remember their story. Ask about something they told you earlier.
* Be present. Don’t be searching the crowd for your next great contact during conversations. Maintain eye contact.
* Seek people out. They won’t naturally come to you.

11 Things Not to Do

Okay, so you’ve met a new friend, what do you do now? Don’t be tempted to do these things.

* Fill the person’s email with jokes, heartwarming stories, or chain emails that you must send if you really love the person or Jesus.
* Act desperate.
* Ask too-personal questions: “So what really happened between you and your ex?
* Gripe… about anything. No one wants to be around a grouch.
* Sigh heavily when you talk about your ministry
* Bring up anything on your body that has been diagnosed, X-rayed, scanned, or that oozes.
* Turn down invitations you get from people for dinner, parties, small groups, or anything else. Everyone’s busy, and it’s okay if you can’t attend once or twice, but if your answer is a recurring “no,” people tend to stop inviting you.
* Share church matters that should be kept in the office. ‘Gossip. No, no, no, no!
* Have a “better plan” than anything others suggest doing together.
* Invite them to sales panics (plastic ware, cookware, jewelry, rock-tumbling) with the subtle expectation for them to spend money to be your friend.

Qualities Trustworthy People Have

I asked my husband (who’s a very trustworthy guy) to list the top qualities of trustworthy people. So if ever in doubt, think “What would Ray do?”

* Empathy—”I’m sorry that happened.”
* Sincerity—”I really mean that.”
* Confidentiality—”I’ll never tell.” ‘Openness to others’ ideas—”What do you think?”
* Listening skills—silence.

14 Best Books to Help You Grow With a Friend

This list isn’t for the faint of heart. I asked a few of my friends for their favorite “deep” reads. So grab a good friend and dig into spiritual truths that’ll help you both grow in your faith—and deepen your relationship.

* Waking the Dead by John Eldredge—this is your alarm clock going off!’
* Knowing God by J.I. Packer—a classic that never grows old.
* Messy Spirituality by Mike Yaconelli—encouraging and honestly blunt.
* Any book by Henri Nouwen—yes! Any book!
* The cost of Discipleship by Dietrich Bonhoeffer—makes you think.
* Disappointment With God by Philip Yancey—confronts questions we’re often terrified to ask.
* Captivating by John Eldredge—a chick book but powerful stuff
* Mere Christianity by C.S. Lewis—Another great classic.
* Spiritual Disciplines for the Christian Life by Donald S. Whitney—You can help each other grow in discipline.
* Out of the Saltshaker and Into the World by Rebecca Manley Pippert

Discover New Ways To Share Your Faith
* Don’t Waste Your Life by John Piper—What’s your purpose? (not to be confused with the other purpose book).
* Desiring God by John Piper—How you can delight in God.
* Blue Like Jazz: Nonreligious Thoughts on Christian Spirituality by Donald Miller—Think outside the religious box.
* The Calvary Road by Roy Hession—examines God’s activity in the heart of the hungry seeker.

6 Best Web Sites for E-Cards

Want to say thank you? nice to meet you? thinking of you? get well? or just share a laugh? These are our favorite sites to find great e-greeting cards.

* Dayspring.com (Dazzling Christian-themed e-cards)
* Hallmark.com (Great e-cards for any situation)
* Crosswalk.com (Inspirational e-cards that’ll bring a smile or tear)
* Americangreetings.com (Huge selection o top quality e-cards)
* Bluemountain.com (A paid site, but beautiful e-cards)
* 23greetings.com (More great e-cards)

Best Places to Lunch With a Mother of a Preschooler

Think easy cleanup and interest areas for the little ones if you really want to have a meaningful conversation with these young moms.

* Any place with an indoor play land or enclosed play area.
* Park with playground equipment.
* Preschool classroom—takeout or delivery.

7 Easiest Parties for Grown-Ups

Party! Party! Everyone loves a party, but who likes the work? Try these ideas that make having a party as much fun for you as it is for your guests.

* Chocolate Boutique (An extravagant, delicious party celebrating chocolate and God’s love [www.group.com])
* Sports Night and Pizza
* BYOB (Bring Your Own Beef) Barbeque
* Build a Pizza (Everyone brings their favorite topping—can work with ice cream, too, except then it’s Build a Sundae)
* Grammy Awards (Get together to watch the sap and provide commentary on everything from dresses to acceptance speeches)
* Party at the Park (Everyone brings a dish and outdoor game—you don’t have to clean the house!)
* Scavenger Hunt (Yes, we’re grown-ups, but these are always great fun, no matter what the age!)

12 Things to Do Before Placing Volunteers

No Time for commitment? You’ve built friendships—way to go! Now do the detail work that ensures the right placement of every single person on your team.

* Have people fill out an application. Conduct a background check.
* Learn about their SHAPE: Spiritual gifts, what they have a Heart for, what their Aptitudes/skills are, their Personality type (introvert, extrovert) and what Experiences they’ve had. This makes a much better fit.
* Introduce them to their future team leader—a new friend, too!
* Watch them in action before placing them in a specific area.
* Ask them: If they had $20 to spend on themselves, how would they spend it? Great way to find out future gifts you can give for affirming!
* Ask what their love language is—this also helps with affirmation ideas.
* Ask where else they’re involved—at church or in the community—help them complement their commitments, not add more stress to their plate.
* Introduce them to other people on the team.
* Give them tools to be their best.
* Give them a job description.
* Pray for them.

Christine Yount Jones is the executive editor for Children’s Ministry Magazine.

This article “Places to Meet New People at Church” by Christine Yount Jones was excerpted from: www.childrensministrymag.com web site. November 2010. The material is most likely copyrighted and should not be reprinted under any other name or author. However, this material may be freely used for personal study and research purposes.

This article may not be written by an Apostolic author, but it contains many excellent principles and concepts that can be adapted to most churches. As the old saying goes “Eat the meat. Throw away the bones.”

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